Guest Post: Why God Calls Me To Submit to My Husband – And Why I Gladly Do It

Today I have the joy of featuring a guest post from the lovely Madison of From This Day Forward. You can read more about her at the end of this post, but I want to go ahead and let you in on a little secret: her words about this divisive topic are refreshing and true, and reading this makes me actually want to submit to my husband! She does not shy away from God’s Word in this post or in any of her writing. I am honored to call her an excellent author and a sweet friend.

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Why God Calls Me To Submit to My Husband Becoming One Devotional for Wives

“Submission? I will never let a man control me! There is no way that I am going to let my future husband rule over me like I’m some kind of slave!”

Sassy, I know. I said phrases like that very often before I started dating and got married. I was a headstrong, independent (or so I liked to think) young woman who really didn’t know the first thing about true biblical submission. To be honest, I think a lot of women nowadays don’t truly know what it means, either. The world tells us that being a submissive wife shows weakness and timidity. It tells us that if we submit to our husbands, they will abuse us and run us down. It tells us that submission is an evil thing that should be avoided at all costs.

If we look at what the Bible tells us, though, it is the exact opposite! God created submission for our benefit. It is not a punishment or burden, but a huge part of what makes marriage more fulfilling and joyful.

There are some things that I had to learn before I could truly submit to my husband the way God called me to. It wasn’t (and still isn’t at times) easy to do, but it is rewarding for my marriage in so many ways.

I had to realize that my husband’s God-given role is to be the leader and head of our home, while MY God-given role is to stand beside him as his helpmeet.

My husband is called to submit to God in order to be the leader he is made to be. I am called to submit to God first and foremost, then to my husband. Our roles should never be switched. If they do, there will be chaos! I believe God created our families to run this way for a reason.

Our husbands are called to love us like Christ loved the church (His Bride) in every aspect of our marriage. Christ loves His church by leading, teaching, and providing for us. We are called to submit to His authority and let him lead our families in the way we should go. Isn’t that a great model of submission in marriage as well? Everything Christ does, He does out of love for us. Your husband should be striving to lead your family in the way Christ leads the church.

I believe another reason why women have a hatred for submission is because they believe, as women, they are required to submit to every man in the world. That is yet another lie!

True biblical submission only requires that a wife submit to her own husband. A woman is not obligated or required to submit to all men in general.

I am so thankful for this! My husband is a Godly, loving and compassionate man who would do anything for me. He is a strong leader and wonderful mentor, and I look up to him a lot. As for the majority of men in this world, I would not even want to be around them; much less be their wife! The good news is I am only called to submit to the man I chose to love forever, my husband.

So, I’m sure you’re wondering, what exactly does biblical submission look like? Do I have a say in anything that goes on in our marriage and life, or is that only my husband’s job?

You DEFINITELY have a say in every single aspect of your marriage and life!

You and your husband should ALWAYS consult each other before making any decisions in your life or marriage. You are a team; your husband is just the team leader!

Before I got married, I thought that submission meant that I would have to let my husband make all of the decisions without consulting me or my opinions. Wow, what a misconception!

Why God Calls Me To Submit to My Husband - Becoming One Devotional for WivesYour husband should most definitely be including you in ALL of the decisions that affect you and your family. If he doesn’t, then he is not being the leader that he is called to be. He should be coming to you for advice and input, as well as your opinion and how you feel about things. His number one priority should always be God’s will, you, and your children (in that order). Being a submissive wife just means that you trust your husband to make the right decisions. It means that you are okay with whatever decision your husband ultimately decides to make regardless of which path you would have chosen yourself. Even when it is hard to let go of the desire to control, we are called to let our husbands lead us.

Jesus provided the perfect example of submission when he went to the cross. He submitted to God and His will, even if it was not the path he would have taken.

When I need a powerful example of biblical submission to go by, I look at Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-46). He went to the garden to pray because He knew He was about to go to the cross. It was taking a huge toll on Him, and he felt as if he was dying already. Through all of that stress and sadness though, Jesus prayed “Father, if it’s possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. But let your will be done rather than mine.” (Matt. 39) That sends chills down my spine! If Jesus, the King of Kings, can go to the cross and be brutally beaten to death and still say “not my will but Yours,” what is stopping us?

It is God’s will that my husband and I submit to Him and that I submit to my husband. Even when it is hard, we can still practice submission. God can help us! All we have to do is ask Him.

Pray for your husband; that he will be the true leader that God calls Him to be. Remember that your husband will never be perfect and he will make mistakes. Even so, trust him. Help him remember to seek God in all that he does and always follow His will.

Becoming One: A 30-Day Devotional for Wives

If you want to invest in your marriage and learning how to truly become one with your husband, I have the perfect resource for you! I just released my new e-book Becoming One: A 30-Day Devotional for Wives! It is designed to help wives grow closer to their husbands while also growing closer to God. To learn more about Becoming One and purchase it for yourself or a friend, visit this link.

About the Guest Poster:

Madison is a follower of Jesus, wife to Steven, and mommy to her fur baby Bentley. She strives to encourage and equip wives to grow closer to God and their husbands on a daily basis. She loves to spend time in the Word of God, go on dates with her husband, whip up treats in the kitchen and travel the world when she can. In all that she does, she strives to please God most of all.

To read more of Madison’s reflections on marriage, you can read her blog.

If you’re interested in reading more about working together within a submissive marriage, see my thoughts on teamwork in marriage.

Mother’s Day: Beautiful Unique Gifts

As a newlywed, this year will be my first mother’s day with a mother-in-law. I have been racking my brain for what would make a nice gift. Honestly, this sweet lady raised my wonderful husband during his difficult years – I want to honor her with something special! I am so excited to have collected these gorgeous and unique mother’s day gift ideas to share. These gifts are perfect for mothers and mothers-in-law, and also grandmothers, aunts, nieces, and sisters-in-law. If you are looking for beautiful, unique, personalized, precious, and not-too-expensive mother’s day gifts, keep reading!

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Personalized

Mason Jar From the Kitchen Self-inking Stamp
Personalization is so fun! Why not personalize a self-inking stamp for your mother, grandmother, or mother-in-law? I love this “From the Kitchen of…” stamp by arrayforhome at Zazzle.com. It comes in nine different colors and two different sizes. It would be perfect for a lady who likes to cook and bake. Isn’t that mason jar image adorable?
Woodland Wildflower Personalized Social Stationery Notepad
You can completely customize this Woodland Wildflower notepad by kat_parrella (right) because Zazzle.com makes it so easy! What a beautiful design for mothers new and experienced! See more notepad designs here. Zazzle.com can personalize almost anything… Yoga mats and aprons, too!

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When you picture your mom’s home, does it seem as if she is missing something? Perhaps a couple throw pillows on the couch or something to hang on the wall in the kitchen? This watercolor throw pillow from JunkyDotCom communicates Mother’s Day sentiments in a cute way. It’s also available as an outdoor pillow!

If a special lady in your life has a favorite or cherished china pattern, like my grandmother does, a piece that she’s missing might make a lovely gift. Replacements, Ltd. has one of the largest collections of replacement china and glassware patterns, and they make beautiful custom pieces out of extra china. For example, I ordered a clock made out of a plate from the same pattern as my grandmother’s china. It made a memorable gift for both of us. (You can see my grandmother’s china pattern in this post’s featured image. Isn’t it lovely?)

I also love the gorgeous monograms that I’ve seen on front doors recently. I even got one for my wedding! Initials are not just for newlyweds, though. Mothers and grandmothers would love this more refined take on modern monogram signs. Look how gorgeous that circle design is!

Faith-BasedDevotional Journal for Moms | Morgan Harper Nichols Shop

I am honored that my mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother-in-law are all believers. What joy this brings to my heart! If you share your faith with the special lady you are gift-hunting for, why not give her a gift that will bless her soul? Morgan Harper Nichols (the lovely lady behind Her Binder Project) has released these gorgeous devotional journaling for moms pages. They are beautiful and are a perfect match to the monthly Her Binder Project devotionals. (You can also catch seven days of the mom journal for free here!)

A lovely gift to celebrate a significant mother’s day would be a Bible or devotional book. The New Mom’s Prayer Bible comes highly recommended, as does the Mom’s Devotional Bible, and both are New International Version. There are other lovely options for mothers who prefer the New King James Version (this gorgeous large print edition) and ladies who would like to journal in their Bibles (see my review of two popular journaling Bibles). A woman who is interested in learning more about Scripture might enjoy studying the Women of the Bible yearlong devotional. Don’t forget to write a personal note in the front cover of the book!

Which mother’s day gifts best suit your mom or mom-in-law?

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Two Journaling Bibles: A Review!

After six years with the same Bible, I have invested in a new one. Bibles are not cheap, so it was quite a leap to make the purchase. The binding on my old Bible completely tore, and the entire thing was falling apart. Despite having this same copy of the Word through high school graduation, all of college, two trips overseas, and dating then marrying my husband, I knew it was time to move on.

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The first thing I was looking for in a Bible was plenty of room in which to write. As you can see from my old Bible, I write it in A LOT! I take notes along the margins, underline verses, circle key words, draw lines between phrases and words that are repeated, and so forth. I love it. However, I just did not have enough room to write everything I would have liked.

I began looking for a new Bible that could accommodate my superfluous note-taking habits. I also wanted it to be cute, and I really didn’t care for extras like devotions or concordances.

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So without further ado, here are my two favorite picks and little about them.

Single-Column Journaling ESV Bible

On the outside, this hardcover ESV journaling Bible looks like something you might find in an antique store. The pages are a slight off-white that make it easier to read. Width measured from the outside edge of each page to the text is about one centimeter shy of two inches, and the margins have very light dotted lines. It includes a ribbon bookmark, a Through-the-Year Bible Reading plan, and a table of Biblical weights and measurements. This Bible is the English Standard Version with some footnotes. It has a lovely lay-flat binding. I have noticed some bleeding through and shadowing when writing/highlighting.

Journal the Word NIV Bible

With a more vibrant color on the cover, this softcover New International Version Bible is very bright. It has a ribbon bookmark and a lay-flat binding, just like the ESV Bible above. This Bible has a preface about the translation and a page of Biblical weights and measurements. From the edge of the page to the text is about a 2 inch margin. In some sections (such as the Psalms), it is closer to 2 and a quarter inches. There are light dotted lines in the margins. I haven’t noticed any bleeding through or shadowing.

Ready for my results?

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ESV Journaling Bible

Pros:

  • Beautiful hardcover
  • Lovely off-white pages
  • I use the ESV at church

Cons:

  • Small font size
  • Some bleeding through and shadows
  • More expensive than some other options

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Journal the Word NIV Bible

Pros:

  • Bright softcover
  • Lighter/Easier to carry around
  • I use the NIV at work
  • Have not noticed any bleeding through pages
  • Less expensive than some other options

Cons:

  • Binding doesn’t seem quite as sturdy as hardcover Bible
  • Small font size

As you can see in the photo below, both Bibles and roughly the same size, are both single-column, and have similarly-sized fonts.  While I love the extra large margins, my only qualm with journaling Bibles is the small font size.

I’ve found that these two Bibles are very similar, however, with the hardcover comes a price increase of roughly $15. We actually used the ESV Hardcover Bible for our wedding guestbook, and it was perfect. Personally, I think that the NIV Journal the Word Bible will be exactly what I need for my everyday devotions and Scripture-reading, primarily because of the light weight.

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I hope this review helped! Do you have a favorite Bible, journaling or otherwise? I would love to read your comments and questions below.

Being Present Spiritually: My Bible Study Methods

My OneWord for 2016 is Present. I want to be present, real, focused, and in the moment. One area in which I can develop this is by being present spiritually.

I have tried a variety of Bible studies over the years: topical studies, book studies, character studies, devotionals, audio, mobile apps, online, groups, yearly, monthly, and more. As we move into 2016, I have narrowed down what I really want out of a Bible study… I want to read and know and believe and engage with God’s Words. That’s really all there is to it. Here are my top five when it comes to how I meet my goals of Bible study and quiet time.

  1. The key to a good Bible study is a Bible. I currently use a women’s devotional edition of the New Living Translation, and I am hoping for a copy of the English Standard Version soon. It helps to read the same passage in multiple translations, and it also helps to have print and electronic versions. I use Bible Gateway, YouVersion and app, She Reads Truth and SRT app) for iPhone, iPad, and PC Bibles. I have also heard good things about the Glo Bible app and website.
  2. Everything I read is correlated. Usually, what I’m reading in my personal devotional time is connected with what we’re studying at church or small group. As our pastor is preaching through the Gospel of John, I have chosen to work through the letters of first, second, and third John. They were all written by the Apostle John, and they carry some similar themes. In the past, I have read through the entire books of Psalms or Proverbs, one chapter at a time. I have focused on certain devotion books or Bible character studies. Find what works for you — but don’t just open your Bible and point to a random verse… Unless God speaks to you that way.
  3. Find a method or format you enjoy. Since I want to read, know believe, and engage God’s Words, I have to use at least four steps in whatever method I choose. I have followed both the S.O.A.P. and Overflow methods, and I like them both. They are encouragements to actually read Scripture, as opposed to reading simply a devotional text with no words from the Bible. Both include a Scripture writing and/or memory component, and an opportunity to dive deeper into the meaning and purpose of the passages. They can used with whatever passages work for you. Here is a free printable for the S.O.A.P. method. Elisa Pulliam created the Overflow method and includes a cute printable on her website. Currently, I am using a combination of the S.O.A.P. and Overflow methods and I am recording my responses in the cute blue and gold polka dot journal in the top photo.
  4. Mark it. If you’re like me, and you sometimes spend over a week one chapter, it may help to keep track of what you read by using a Bible reading chart. I love this one with the blue-grey colors and circles. This also helps if you are trying to read the Bible in a year.
  5. Read or listen to another’s thoughts. As much as I enjoy focusing just on Scripture and not being distracted by devotional commentary, I have to say that hearing from a pastor or teacher is enlightening and encouraging. To that end, my fiance gave me a beautiful journaling edition of Experiencing God Day by Day, taken from sermons and writings by the Blackabys. If you’re not a big reader, try podcasts or recorded sermons for an auditory experience. This helps with the engagement with God’s words.

As we embrace a new year, I pray that we would find refreshment and encouragement from reading, knowing, believing, and engaging with God’s Word. Be awake and alive during your quiet time with God.

Most of all: Pray. Talk with God conversationally throughout the day, and it will make a huge difference when you sit down to read his Word.